幸福的终点--自星洲日报
匆匆忙忙步入車廂,待坐穩後,首先映進眼簾的是一雙交纏緊握的手。在一層黑皮膚的襯托下,另一根手臂就顯得更為白晢。再往上看,原來是一對異國情侶,小倆口可旁若無人地靠在一隅細語輕聲,狀態親密,卻也惹來許多異樣的眼光。
在這搖搖晃晃的電車中,一時之間雖會讓人產生不安與不實之感,但我相信在早已設定的車軌上,就算是千山萬水,也必能帶我到達目的地。不過眼前這對情侶就或許未能如願以償,因為這一層膚色的差異,在現時的社會裡,仍然需要去面對許多不必要的狹隘思想、短淺的視野和偏執目光的沖擊。先勿論能否發展下去,甚至在一開始時,也許就已有人會以種種似是而非的理由來加以攔阻,務必要棒打鴛鴦方能稱心。
哪怕前面不知還有多少個關口需要穿越,在此衷心期盼這對陌生的有情人能堅持下去,彼此都能靠真誠的愛來一一跨過,讓滿載愛的車廂,能無怨無愧地到達幸福的終點。
只是想收藏这一篇文章。无他。
Saturday, 15 November 2008
Wednesday, 12 November 2008
You are a PhD student, so what?
Today I went for a training course called 'Challenges in PhD life'. Due to the nature of the talk which covers a broad aspect, it is quite challenging for the speaker to stay really focused or speciallized on certain field.
I came across with a lady--who looked rather old, I supposed at age of around 30 or late 20s, based on the wrinkles she had. I supposed she studies sociology, or policy making, but I did not have a chance to ask her as she was talking to another PhD student who seemed quite confident and capable.
She condemned the speaker face-to-face, refused to keep the notes from the training course, reading own stuffs during the course and keep on complaining on how crap is the course content.
From her speaking, she has an 'A' type personality--in which she can't tolerate with small little things which she thinks is imperfect. However, I could never agree with her attitude in complaining how crap is the training course.
Yes, she might be a very good PhD student in her field, in which her level might have surpassed depth of the training course content, but--her attitude is not helping at all.
First, the main purpose of the training course is to help students to cope with this transition stage--from a classroom-based studying to an independent research self-learning stage. Even if she doesn't have problem coping with this change but just to attend training courses to achieve the requirement of university, she should not affect the speaker in trying her best to help other students. Complaining doesn't help the whole situation.
Second, I wonder why she didn't use her knowledge to add up some spice to the training course, help the speaker in inspiring other students? I think this would be more constructive.
She is a PhD student, might be a brilliant one, so what? I think she's worse than a kindergarten kid who knows how to respect a teacher--although the teacher might not be as good as her, but that person is still a person who is willing to teach and share her experience and knowledge, and thus I think she deserves your respect. If she remained cooperate and stay silent, I am sure that is a good deed.
As time goes by, a PhD student will gain a lot of knowledge, but if they don't equip themselves with wisdom, they are just wasting the knowledge they've learned, as they are unable to put what they've learned into good use--by missing the chance that they might have in order to improve the situation.
What a waste....
I came across with a lady--who looked rather old, I supposed at age of around 30 or late 20s, based on the wrinkles she had. I supposed she studies sociology, or policy making, but I did not have a chance to ask her as she was talking to another PhD student who seemed quite confident and capable.
She condemned the speaker face-to-face, refused to keep the notes from the training course, reading own stuffs during the course and keep on complaining on how crap is the course content.
From her speaking, she has an 'A' type personality--in which she can't tolerate with small little things which she thinks is imperfect. However, I could never agree with her attitude in complaining how crap is the training course.
Yes, she might be a very good PhD student in her field, in which her level might have surpassed depth of the training course content, but--her attitude is not helping at all.
First, the main purpose of the training course is to help students to cope with this transition stage--from a classroom-based studying to an independent research self-learning stage. Even if she doesn't have problem coping with this change but just to attend training courses to achieve the requirement of university, she should not affect the speaker in trying her best to help other students. Complaining doesn't help the whole situation.
Second, I wonder why she didn't use her knowledge to add up some spice to the training course, help the speaker in inspiring other students? I think this would be more constructive.
She is a PhD student, might be a brilliant one, so what? I think she's worse than a kindergarten kid who knows how to respect a teacher--although the teacher might not be as good as her, but that person is still a person who is willing to teach and share her experience and knowledge, and thus I think she deserves your respect. If she remained cooperate and stay silent, I am sure that is a good deed.
As time goes by, a PhD student will gain a lot of knowledge, but if they don't equip themselves with wisdom, they are just wasting the knowledge they've learned, as they are unable to put what they've learned into good use--by missing the chance that they might have in order to improve the situation.
What a waste....
Saturday, 8 November 2008
久违了
荒废了这个布落格好久。
这里的秋天快要结束了,到处可见满地的落叶。
秋天是我最喜欢的季节,也许是因为我是秋天出世的。很喜欢满地落叶的世界,无论是在阳光下还是阴天里。
很多人问我喜不喜欢贝尔法斯,我都会很一贯地说:不错,除了它的天气--这里经常下雨。
其实我真的不那么讨厌这里的雨。至少没我想象中或所说般讨厌。
我已经在这里了,待也待了那么一年,说实在地,也没什么讨厌不讨厌的。也许是习惯了吧?我只是不习惯这里的低温。
只是,现在这里开始很快天黑,开始变得夜长昼短,下午三四点就开始天黑了。
下个星期我会有个Presentation,可是我一点也还没准备。昨晚和今天都在看网上漫画。
朋友msn我说:怎么念博士了还在看漫画?
怎么不能看漫画?我还为了网上漫画而荒废学业--哈哈哈哈,我想我是无可救药了。
说我是在找借口也好,我觉得自己在等待那一份灵感。而灵感也许来自于危机感--而我严重地缺乏危机感--总觉得好像做还是不做都无所谓--没把导师放在眼里。呵呵呵……我在想,这种我行我素的坏习惯何时会把我毁了,何时会变成,我行我素=自取灭亡?也许就快了。我想我严重缺乏肾上激素,因为缺乏肾上激素=缺乏危机感。肾上激素,你何时给我增加一点?哈哈哈……总结来说,肾上激素=危机感=灵感。(我的歪理!)
终于辞了两分工作,感觉轻松很多,因为经济上比较宽松了,但我却变得懒散了。反观另一个同事,她有三份工作,工作又勤劳,我真自愧不如。
看完了网上漫画就看朋友的布落格。这里好冷。该准备晚餐了。
这里的秋天快要结束了,到处可见满地的落叶。
秋天是我最喜欢的季节,也许是因为我是秋天出世的。很喜欢满地落叶的世界,无论是在阳光下还是阴天里。
很多人问我喜不喜欢贝尔法斯,我都会很一贯地说:不错,除了它的天气--这里经常下雨。
其实我真的不那么讨厌这里的雨。至少没我想象中或所说般讨厌。
我已经在这里了,待也待了那么一年,说实在地,也没什么讨厌不讨厌的。也许是习惯了吧?我只是不习惯这里的低温。
只是,现在这里开始很快天黑,开始变得夜长昼短,下午三四点就开始天黑了。
下个星期我会有个Presentation,可是我一点也还没准备。昨晚和今天都在看网上漫画。
朋友msn我说:怎么念博士了还在看漫画?
怎么不能看漫画?我还为了网上漫画而荒废学业--哈哈哈哈,我想我是无可救药了。
说我是在找借口也好,我觉得自己在等待那一份灵感。而灵感也许来自于危机感--而我严重地缺乏危机感--总觉得好像做还是不做都无所谓--没把导师放在眼里。呵呵呵……我在想,这种我行我素的坏习惯何时会把我毁了,何时会变成,我行我素=自取灭亡?也许就快了。我想我严重缺乏肾上激素,因为缺乏肾上激素=缺乏危机感。肾上激素,你何时给我增加一点?哈哈哈……总结来说,肾上激素=危机感=灵感。(我的歪理!)
终于辞了两分工作,感觉轻松很多,因为经济上比较宽松了,但我却变得懒散了。反观另一个同事,她有三份工作,工作又勤劳,我真自愧不如。
看完了网上漫画就看朋友的布落格。这里好冷。该准备晚餐了。
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